This is what I meant when I said "US"

Cartoonalysis #2

Cartoonalysis-Prioritizing spouse over SHOPPING...!

Dear Venky....

Chanced  upon this cartoon on a telugu led website...

http://www.teluguone.com/comedy/content/funny-cartoon-of-husband-and-wife-34-9763.html

Got me thinking....over a period of time
Time:Flies...
Time with spouse: Drags....
Spouse becomes : A habit, A constant, An omnipresent factor
Relationship:Degenerates....Fades.....Breaks
Priorities: change...shopping, reading, meeting friends, haggling with kids take precedence over spending time with your spouse

Some call it a very natural progression, to me its losing out on time with that one person who has the potential to be ever present for you.with you.

I do not want this to happen to us.We have to do something to keep our relationship from turning into a glaring truth that is both uncomfortable and shackling!

I know right now we are thinking career, making money, thinking socializing, making babies and what not.Are we thinking about 'us' ? 'Us' five years later, ten years hence.

Money will flow...disappear...family will grow, shrink...we do not have control over all this on a long term.But one thing needs to be constant ..US...not U.S or dreams of earning big.(sticking my tongue out)

Think about it!

Till then,

Hasta la vista, baby!

When you go that extra mile :) !

Venky......loved what you did today.....added yourself in my friends' group to get to know them ......that extra mile...makes me fall in love with u all over again!

Junkyard wars.....!

I am doing this amazing course with coursera.org through penn state.....sharing some pictures for products made from junk at work! #cicmooc ...On second I can refine it and actually sell it online!!!!!

An email that left me with a bad taste!

Dear Venky

Hello to you..I have something very important to share.

Read this link!You will be shocked:

An email: I cannot bend to my FIL’s greed … but I don’t want to break up a family (mine) …

http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/2012/06/04/an-email-i-cannot-bend-to-my-fils-greed-but-i-dont-want-to-break-up-a-family-mine/

Read this in a favourite fellow blogger's site....

Here the lady in question is trying to not get back with her in-laws.You know I am a staunch joint-family activist, hence I found the issue very weird...until I read on.

The FIL and MIL are apparently not very educated and had thrown their DIL and son out of the house when she was miscarrying.Now the MIL is no-more and he wants the son back into his house.

FIL hates his grand-daughter apparently...and never bothered to check on the family post driving them away.

In such a situation, son is supposed to take a 40 Lac loan for the family to buy a house where all together can stay???The husband/son is totally caught up in between with the wife saying that money is tight and father brainwashing him everyday.

The wife is even ready to walk out on him!I guess she is really frustrated and so is the poor husband...But I really can't imagine a FIL like this....??SHOCKING!!

In all this, I am so glad we have a family where we are really taken care of!Need to thank god for that!

More importantly, need to thank you..yes, you...You have such clarity of thought and you stick to your decisions..it makes me feel really good and secure!

Stay that way..always (even if it annoys me sometimes that you do not budge!)

Love,

Me

When romance takes an ugly turn...comedy pitches in

Helllo venky.....

Cant believe this happened today.....I mean me forgetting my phone is pretty normal...be happy that I forgot the phone at home instead of office....looo.....kitchen sink....fridge...by the way all these hv happened in the past!

When you called me on that ancient landline connection in my office....i   got a transferred call.....l thought why is everyone's voice resembling yours... Aww sooo mushy....only to be shouted at you for my ever forgetfulness....I thank my stars that I escaped your usual bickering by making a joke out of this whole thing......!

Next time I promise......I will not forget my phone
.....scout's honour.....(@ home at least)

Pleased to meet you, Venky: An incomplete post to a soulful completion!

Hi,

So finally we meet...and you actually end up liking me, am glad!

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As I went to clean up my draft after almost a year of blogging.....the above were the words that I saw.
I do not know what was going on in my mind when I wrote this, but as I got thinking I wondered why did I marry you!

Now, after a year and a half of meeting you, Eureka!I finally got it.

1. You are not my knight in the shining armour!You see me as an independent unit...let me take my own decisions unlike the very stereotyped allegations that-- a husband has to take care of his wife.She is his responsibility.You know it unnerves me and you so easily adapted to my needs.I get floored every time I think of it.
2. You give a direction to my impulse and dreams! You do not put down my aspirations, even if it sounds very weird to you.You help me find a direction to fulfil them for me!A NO, always bugs me, but a solution to satisfy my needs or wants gives me a direction and hence a goal.10 million brownie points for you for that!
3. You love me, realistically! Somewhere, you defy all my notions of a classic romance.I have come to realise that true love is all about standing up for each other in difficult times.And that is exactly what you do.I know how stressed you get, but you still don't give up on 'US'!I am glad that occasional pampering also happens..so please don't forget that too. :P !

Stay like this, Venky...being with you makes me feels there is so much more to learn, explore..each day together!

Yours,

Venky's bride

Year 2 starts: Venky and me are both married and happy at the same time!

Now are we happy because we are married or are we married because we are happy individuals...is something that only dilbert knows  :P